Communicating with ourselves, not taking things personally (#2) gives us the opportunity to look inward, to find and change the old arrangements and beliefs — most of the lies of our domestication in childhood — that involve us emotionally and push us to react. The author of the article describes precisely the « dream » of people that distorts what people say or do. It is a powerful gift from Toltec Wisdom. At the end of the day, I think it is important that his agreements have the consequences you want. I also found it strange to judge a book about the behavior of a person who claims to have read it and about the elderly who are the ancestors of the author of the book. That is why I did not respond to Cccc`s comment. If the commentator explains why he/she thought the four chords meant that people were behaving ruthlessly and selfishly, I might have received an answer. As things stand, I agree with the idea that –Toltec or not — these principles are a healthy way of living and sticking to good practices supported by modern psychology: we can use the fourth agreement, Do Your Best, to encourage us to aspire positively. But this agreement also recognizes that « our best » varies from time to time, depending on our circumstances and our state of mind.
The awareness of this fact leads to the realization that everything we do is our best moment, and this awareness can prevent us from having flags of ourselves if we are not up to an inappropriate level of perfection. How do we know the correct interpretation of Ruiz`s reference to John 1:1-5? We could break one of its four agreements and make the assumption of its intent. Or if you`re really interested in the truth, you might ask him. One of the most important teachings of wisdom in the Toltec tradition is that we all dream — to dream of a unique vision and experience of the universe. It`s at the beginning of « The Four Accords, » and my experience is that a lot of people slip into that part and go to the chords. The fourth agreement allows readers to have a better understanding of the progress made in achieving their goals in life. This agreement involves the integration of the first three agreements into daily life and the exploitation of its own potential.  It is a matter of doing the best that can be managed individually, which varies from the different situations and circumstances that the individual may encounter. Ruiz believes that if you judge yourself and do your best at all times, you will be able to avoid remorse.
 By integrating the first three chords and doing the best in all facets of life, the individual will be able to lead a life without grief or self-awareness.  I like what you say. If you`ve written a book about your spontaneous chords, I`ll read it. If I have to name four betrayals that I usually do to myself, will they be? I realize that it was written a few years ago… and I still have to depart from some of the author`s misunderstandings about wisdom in « The Four Accords. » Note that the beginning of the book on domestication and dreams is an important preface to understanding the power of new chords. Thank you, Allan, for sharing your wisdom. I am honored that someone of your stature would take the time to read my article and clarify the importance of the agreements.